I often hear people talk about equality of opportunity for women in the workplace, but not often do I hear people talk about the fundamental human need and right for women to be happy and fulfilled, even if they are unable to work for whatever reason, including the work of being a mum. It’s not always easy to work if you don’t have a good support network around you to help with childcare and the school runs which poses a time constraint and limits opportunities to find time to work, plus also finding the energy to work with all the household chores, challenges and stress involved in running a family, especially if you are someone like me with chronic fatigue.
Despite all the challenges, it’s important to still muddle our way through all this chaos to make ourselves a priority in life, to make ourselves feel good and happy inside, and children can learn from seeing their mums happy.
The mental health of women is often put aside for the benefit of everyone else and everything, and everyone else’s needs tend to be put first, leaving little time for the women’s needs to be met. Which is why we must take the time as women to empower ourselves to make sure our needs fit into the equation on an everyday basis, and not rely on anyone else to fulfil our needs.
We have to practice self-love. It can really fill the gap in making you feel more loved on the inside and can help you cope more easily with the everyday challenges of life, give you a burst of energy and can make you feel more alive, give you more freedom and feel more in touch with yourself for the person you really are, and quite possibly your childlike self.
Everything is possible if you make it possible by creating that time for yourself everyday doing something you love – or doing something that you know is good for you and makes you glow and feel good inside.
Despite the overwhelm and lack of time, it is possible to make time for the things you want more of in your life if you make that decision to choose love rather than being led by all the excuses you have created in your mind stopping you looking after yourself in the best way and getting the most enjoyment out of life. Once you prioritise love, you can start to control your experience of life and what is thrown your way, and all the decisions you make for your life will come from that place most of the time at least. None of us are perfect and we will of course slip up from time to time, but ideally this would be the default place you make decisions from so that you can live your best life. In any given moment, even if for very small pockets of time, we can surrender to the light, we can choose love and make ourselves more open to receiving miracles in life and the happiness you deserve.
If you’re not sure where to start or how to implement some new healthy self-love habits, and would like some help in developing some control over your life and everyday happiness, why not grab one of The Big Life Journal’s challenge kits and experience it for yourself, do it with your children too and share the experience…
Each day brings us new miracles, things that we can be grateful for and celebrate in a positive light – we have to learn to look for them and focus on what we can be grateful for and enjoy our lives in the present moment rather than what we want in the future that will make you happy, things you don’t already have. When you start focusing on being happy with what you have and what you enjoy in life, you will be able to create more of what you want and give yourself the freedom that you crave to live your life happy on your terms.