What is it you really want?

This week, I experienced a shift in perspective. I decided to create that picture in my head on “paper” (the electronic version) of what it is I want in life, my big goals, and it really does help to shape the perspective in my mind and opened up a more creative part of me that has managed to piece some more bits of the puzzle together for the course I am creating which I am really excited about.

It’s one thing thinking about your dreams in your mind…. but writing them down and actually “drawing them out” on paper that makes it feel more real inside your head, and helps you to feel more driven to achieve your goals. It is possible to dream big, you deserve to make your dreams come true too and to be happy – just because you are a mum, your lives don’t have to end right now. You are worth making happiness for yourself an important priority in life too….

Sometimes it’s just the simple pleasures in life that you can introduce into your lives. Just making a little time to read a book with a cup of green tea enjoying some peace and quiet before the kids get up feels really good to me, or somehow managing to squeeze in a bit of time to listen to my favourite music or play my flute when I can manage it. Especially on the weekend whilst the kids are watching a bit of TV or just chilling in the morning, it is a perfect time to make time for a little activity for you, that helps to stimulate and relax your mind, body and soul (before the chaos begins again). It’s so important allow yourself some well-deserved me-time, no guilt attached.

Eventually, if you are consistent, the kids will get used to the idea that this is something you do, it will become a part of who you are aside from being a mummy. They have to learn at some point and the earlier they learn, the better! There is definitely more to life than housework, and sometimes, it is necessary to leave the house a mess (it isn’t easy I know) whilst you care for your needs – and unless you stop doing housework and chores, they will never stop! You can get so bogged down and overwhelmed in the mundane to-do list, that you feel like you are drowning in it, and feel like you have lost the feeling of control over your life. And this doesn’t feel good and can really affect our outlook and mood.

So yes, even if it is in bite sized chunks, it is possible to make your dream life happen, but you have to demonstrate to yourself that you are worth giving that extra love and attention – no one else can love you as much as you can or knows your needs better than you do. Always make sure you look out for your own best interests as well as everyone else and get some enjoyment out of life, whatever it is that you do for a living. No one is superior to the other, we are all human beings after all, and should treat each other with kindness and compassion, including our very own selves.

Sara Benveniste

Sara is a mum of 3 and also a Mindset & Wellness coach. and through personal experience, helps people with low energy and chronic fatigue develop a healthier, more positive and creative growth mindset, and at the same time, nourish their mind, body and soul through self-love, good nutrition, music and mindfulness. She is also a linguist, and loves learning foreign languages, including French, Spanish and Italian, playing the flute and listening to music.

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