So many years of our life, we rely on other people, whether it is our family, friends or employers, to tell us how wonderful and loved we are, how much we are valued and appreciated, that has a big impact on our sense of self-worth. But why are we relying on other people for something that is ultimately our responsibility?
Especially in the workplace, I remember being pigeon holed in the administration jobs I was doing for a long time as this is something I was very good at, but over time, even though I had a great learning experience and met some great people along the way, I was forever having to do the things I didn’t always want to do but which I know had to be done, and at the same time, I also knew I was a key part of the bigger picture in keeping everyone afloat. However, this didn’t make me feel fulfilled and happy in my job. So I stuck with a similar kind of job in various different charities for years, just because this is what I did and what I had experience in.
Having said that, I knew I was capable of more, but I didn’t know any different at the time and certainly didn’t know how to grow my mindset back then like I do now and make that kind of positive change in my life towards the things I do want more of, and to feel valued.
After working in the charity sector, I moved onto motherhood, which is yet another full time job and also full of mundane tasks, but again for a really worthy cause – my kids are priceless. However, motherhood does come at a price as we lose our sense of self. Being a mum is much harder than a regular job sitting at your computer as it’s just so physically and mentally draining…. This is why it’s so important to squeeze into your day as many little things as possible to make you feel uplifted to help you get through your day in one piece, even if it is around the kids. It may seem selfish to some people, but a good bit of self care goes a long way, so who cares what other people think…
I have always thought I deserve much more, but truth be told, I didn’t really understand my true worth back then, what I am truly capable and deserving of, and I am still working to understand it even now as it is a steep learning curve. I didn’t realise I had closed off opportunities to achieve more for myself purely because of the fears I had inside my head that did a great job at talking me out of taking more risks in life, so even though I have achieved great things for myself, I didn’t take a lot of risks because of my fear of failure. Also, I hadn’t found that thing that really lit me up and made me feel like I can bring real good value in the world and make a difference in other people’s lives.
Do you ever feel like you could do something much more fulfilling with your life, and include your passions as part of your life too aswell as all the things you need to do on your to do list? I’ve always been told that it’s not possible to do that thing you love most and make a living. But why not? This is where you feel the most joy when you make sure you include what you love into your life and make your happiness priority number one.
Investing in my musical skills has so far been one of the key tools I have used to help increase my energy, happiness and joy, and my intuition is telling me I must invest more in this area. All I know right now is that the more I receive and feel joy, the more I want of it in my life as I know it helps to light my soul up and fuel my energy and passion for life even more.
If you don’t look after or feel good in yourself, it’s not easy to look after the other people around you and be in the best state of mind, which is essential for happiness to come about and make you glow inside.