What do you choose?

Posted by: Sara Benveniste Posted on: 11th October 2025

I have a little story to tell. One day recently whilst I was at a Campaign against Antisemitism march in Central London, my 9 year old son spoke to me about a Christian lady who was holding a poster saying “I love Jews”. He said to me, why does she love Jews? Me and this nice Christian lady just looked at each other, didn’t really know what to say, I shrugged and said “Why not?” in a light tone of voice. Then she said “Bless him” and we laughed it off. What else could we do…

I still don’t have the words to explain to a young child why we are hated so much. With the older ones, we at least know they have a better understanding of antisemitism and what happened on October 7th as they’ve been taught about it at school. However, there is simply no justification for it all.

It’s all very difficult especially as we are doing our very best as parents to show our kids love and affection as much as we can, and always encouraging them to be their best self. At the same time, we do our best to teach them to behave in a kind, respectful way, around friends, family, strangers, and all others around us. The expression “treat people how you want to be treated” is always a great reminder and message to give kids (and adults too) and helps to give them a better perspective and insight on how perhaps they could be kinder to others, especially when they want to be treated better. We teach the Jewish (and British) values that we were taught by our parents and teachers that still hold true.

It’s hard for young people to process, I find it hard to process all of this as an adult and still feel unable to comprehend how I can possibly be living in a time like this. I shudder to think about what my mum or grandparents would make of all of this, especially since we’ve had the Holocaust. Isn’t that more than enough already… I never thought I would ever see a repeat of it at any scale and this ancient hate resurface as it has done all over the world over the past two years.

Key Jewish values that we are taught from a young age by our parents, in school, centre around justice, repairing the world (Tikkun Olam), the importance of community, learning to be better human beings, and gratitude – all of which derive from the Ten Commandments. We believe in having compassion and dignity for all people, and we use these values as a guide, otherwise known as a moral compass, to help us make good choices and and improve society as a whole. No matter how religious we are, these values are woven into daily life and tradition, some more than others of course, and this determines how we treat people. We aren’t all perfect, none of us are, but this is the same for every human being – no-one is perfect.

There are people out there who are so quick to want to destroy lives – however, this only serves as a positive lesson to all of us to make living life even more precious. The darkness out there drives us to want to live life to the full even more and the light feels even brighter when we experience this. This is possibly what our enemies don’t realise – their efforts to bring us down only serve a bigger purpose, and all we can possibly do is rise above them.

In the face of the rising antisemitism towards Jewish people, all we can do in response is continue building on our own resilience; good habits, self-care and daily actions that bring us peace and joy, and enhance whenever we can the warmth of being part of a spiritually close-knit community, which is even more precious than ever. Not forgetting to simply fill our hearts with gratitude with all that is beautiful and loving in this world, and all that is dear to us, including our friends, families and non-Jewish allies who are standing with us in the light and who embrace the truth of who we are. The best we can do is to focus on the things we can control and all the people that do care about us. We need to fill up our own cups with light and joy as much as possible, and shine our lights brighter greater than ever before.

Light the way for others to follow suit.

Love has to win. It has to. I have hope and faith in what I believe in, in the good of mankind, and more importantly, I choose to be on the right side of history.

 

Sing – the world needs to hear your voice

Posted by: Sara Benveniste Posted on: 19th August 2025

My hard copy, paperback book has been well-travelled as you can see from the front! I bought it ages ago – in September 2024 – and in the hope I will get through it, even if a couple of pages at a time, I kept taking it with me to places when I had a spare 10 mins to read, usually at pick up time or in between tasks or on the weekend in my relaxation or “spare” time. I would also move it up and down the house as a reminder to read it!

However, even though I got through 20 pages or so over that time, something else always took over, and it was taking forever to get through it, to the point I never thought I would finish it…. I would always get distracted by something I’m doing or listening to a talk or some music on my phone, and most of the time, I couldn’t muster up the motivation to just sit and pause with a book, even if for 10-15 minutes.

I’ve been finding it hard to get back into the habit of reading, especially over the past year whilst I’ve been pouring a lot of my energy into looking for a new part-time role, and making the time to read for pleasure.

I went on holiday to Lanzarote over the past week and took this book with me (as well as my Kindle which was probably a bit optimistic!) and have now again (finally) realised the joy that reading can bring, which I had forgotten about after it’s been so long since I’ve been engrossed in a book.

It is nice still to read for pleasure – and a different exercise to the kind of reading I do for work. As a freelance Editor, I have to read through lots of different, interesting, inspiring articles and so I am naturally in the habit of reading things and making sure it all flows well and the spelling and grammar is correct. When reading for relaxation however, I don’t have the worry of all the editing I usually do, but I do have to be careful not to put my “Editor hat” on when reading in this way especially when I occasionally spot the odd spelling error in the text I’m reading!

As with everything I do, I need to make a habit of reading to be able to fit this into my busy schedule.

Anyway, so back to my original point. I’ve been ploughing through Caroline Redman Lusher’s book over the past week whilst on holiday, and even though I really wasn’t sure what to expect, I was really excited to read it to find out more about Caroline, who is the gem behind the scenes and set-up of Rock Choir, a community choir that I am passionate about, that operates all over the UK.

I’m now over half way through the book, and wow, this lady is incredible. She has absolutely put her heart and soul into the making of Rock Choir, and the pure passion for what she does and continues to create is just amazing.

Her sheer determination, hard work and perseverance in making her dreams come well and truly alive is astounding despite all the obstacles and health challenges that she has faced along the way. She has given so much of herself and her life to the success of it as I see for myself, and it continues to evolve over time.

She has managed to achieve a brilliant name for herself in the name of Rock Choir which I am so proud to be a member of for the past six years. I am also personally grateful for what she has created and to be part of this growing rock singing movement and all that it stands for in helping members feel part of a community with a shared passion for pop music, helping us all build meaningful friendships and more importantly, helping us connect to our authentic selves through the magical power of song.

Caroline is so dedicated in the way she cares so much about her team behind the scenes who have helped her to “run the show”, and also, including the choir leaders that she has nurtured throughout her journey since the very beginning. The work that she has put into growing the choirs all over the country bit by bit has been really inspiring.

I feel her excitement in the book as she celebrates every step of her journey, the bliss she experiences at every stage alongside her ever growing achievements and the community initiatives she has taken part in, all with the purpose of raising awareness of Rock Choir and all the good it strives to do and support.

As a current member, I feel like I’m part of the book! I am continually inspired by all that she has created, continues to create and the joy it brings to all of us. I can’t wait to start my weekly session when the new Autumn term starts in September.

It always seems like a long time between sessions when the holidays start, which is why I make sure I organise a session or two of karaoke in between with the community group I set up in 2018 for ladies who love to let their hair loose in North London and enjoy a sing-song and dance. Rock Choir is what set off my passion for singing, though it has always been a passion of mine since I was a little girl – it lay a bit dormant for a while until I opened the door again. I remember always loving singing along to songs being played on my stereo system (remember those??) using paper lyrics to remind myself of the words of the song.

If we can’t find the right words to say to express how we feel about something, we can always find a song that will pull it out of us and that we can relate to. There are plenty of songs out there for everyone to experience.

Singing opens up a whole new world for us all no matter what kind of voice we have or our understanding of music – it really is so good for our wellbeing, it brings us peace, such a lot of joy and is such a great way to connect us all no matter our colour, race or ethnic origin; it also opens up those blocked communication channels within our voice to help us express ourselves in a positive way and simply release any negative, unwanted, blocked energy from our bodies. It really does make us come alive!

In early August, I attended a “Big Sing” – run by my choir leader Simon Reynolds – which involved three of his choirs getting together as one in a big school hall in Pinner. The atmosphere is wild when so many of us are singing the same tunes and harmonies devised by Caroline, along with the moves too. There is such a magical atmosphere in the room and you can feel all the joy and love oozing off us all, especially when singing favourites like Hallelujah, A Thousand Years, I Wanna Dance with Somebody, Call Me (a new favourite) and lots more. I love all the fantastic community events Rock Choir puts on, even though I can’t unfortunately always go to them all, whether it is just for us Rockies or whether it’s performing in parks or at community events, helping to do our bit in our community in North London to bring joy and spread fun, uplifting, musical vibes across the UK.

Now I’d better get on with finishing the second half of the book….

 

 

Joy is the ultimate goal

Posted by: Sara Benveniste Posted on: 14th May 2025

Last weekend, I went to a Chakra Dancing retreat, which was where I started my sound healing journey. This time, instead of going for a five-day retreat like I did just over two years ago, I went for just one day to learn about how I can incorporate art into my chakra dance classes. I have a Diploma in Chakra Dancing and Creative Meditation, and until now, since the retreat two years ago, I have been doing chakra dance – as well as singing – for my own self-care  to help me through life and my job search too which has become a mission of its own. And what an incredibly musical and sound healing journey it has been.

I keep coming across the idea of teaching and then I pull out, whether it’s the idea of teaching foreign languages, my native English as a foreign language, and now chakra dance. Even if the subject matter is one I love, there is this fear within me about teaching, of standing up in front of a group of people, of having my voice heard, and finally and more importantly, having to remember everything I’ve been preparing and working so hard for in the moment I’m up on stage, whether in the classroom or any kind of room really. The fear is real!!

On the other hand, I have been working through this fear especially over this past nine months through the process of going to interviews whilst looking for my ideal job opportunity that will help me find the balance I am looking for once and for all.

It always amazes me how many hours and how much work goes into preparing for an interview. It’s endless and a job in itself to find a job, and I can only ever give it my all with every opportunity that has come by me. That’s who I am, I give 110% to every job I do. I’m a perfectionist, which has its pros and cons – as a Copywriter, it is however a useful trait to pay very good attention to detail.

Instead of trying to remember too much information and overwhelming myself, what I’ve done recently is to do my best to remember things I’ve written down on the first two pages in my interview preparation document – which has evolved with me over time – with the most important things I really want to say in response to some key questions that are asked of me on the spot, eg. who am I, why I want the job, what excites me about the role, what are the key skills I have to offer etc. These are the main things I do my best to remember, even if it comes out a little different on the day. The rest I read over out loud but don’t put pressure on myself to have to remember on the day of the interview. It’s a good strategy as I feel it helps to reduce the pressure which then helps me to connect better with the interviewer so that I can answer the interview questions as mindfully and authentically as possible.

This is how I think about life too, how can we reduce the pressure of what we are doing, how can we make things more straightforward so there is less to worry about. Generally speaking, it’s when we are more relaxed that we give our best selves to others, not when we are nervous or under pressure. Everyone is unique of course, and some people thrive in high pressure roles – but it’s not for everyone.

At every stage, I’ve put in the self-work to improve the way I approach the questions with more resilience and calm, and I celebrate each stage of the process. Also, at every stage of my healing journey, I am learning more and more about what lights me up inside.  So even if I’m not given the actual job, I know I have taken a step in the right direction. I’m following that happy feeling right now as this is what gives me the most confidence. Joy is the ultimate goal for me. The next step has to feel good inside, so that I feel like I’m moving purposefully in alignment with the person I am becoming more of and also in alignment with what truly matters to me.

I’ve always been told that I don’t need to love what I do as a job, and that it’s just a job right? However, in an interview scenario, when putting yourself forward for a job in the application process, if this is a job you absolutely love and feel very passionate about, you end up feeling so aligned to the role, and sometimes at the end of the day, it really is just a question of whether the interviewer likes what you have to offer, whether your skills match what they are looking for, and also your personality too which I think tends to be the final deciding factor especially if you are going to be working closely with each other in the same team.

I would really like to feel a sense of purpose and shared passion for the work that I do.  It really motivates me when I can see how my hard work has benefited the team and organisation I am working for.

As someone with lived experience of hearing loss, I understand first-hand the importance of creativity, mindfulness and connection in building confidence and resilience, and this has become an important part of my being and something I’m not afraid to talk about.

Our wellbeing is so important as I’ve discovered through my own self-healing and personal growth, which is why I would love to change the face of mental health and wellbeing of children and adults too through mindfulness, creativity, music and movement, and in particular, parents and children with Special Educational Needs and Disabilities (SEND), supporting families through the challenges neurodiversity brings.

I would love to help both children and adults discover joy, purpose, a sense of calm and self-expression through community and creative engagement. I would love to play a key role in helping them improve their confidence and self-esteem, increase self-awareness and more importantly, help them access their positive, happy, spiritual self to learn about their own superpowers, passions and purpose in life, and to help them find creative ways to nurture and nourish their soul and wellbeing through the challenges that school life, life in general or SEND can bring.

I get a real kick out of making a difference to other people’s lives – helping them to proactively get the best out of life, access better opportunities in the future, and be able to enrich their lives in a positive, uplifting way.

It felt so good to be back at that chakra dancing retreat again this weekend. As soon as I got there, I realised this was where I was meant to be and it gave me a chance to reflect back to where I was at the start of my journey. It has been a really beautiful journey since then which I’m so grateful for being able to experience.

There is also something so incredibly divine and peaceful about being in the countryside, and Plumpton in West Sussex, where the course is based, is a really pretty place to be. When I arrived, the air felt fresh and still, and a bonus, the sun was shining – I didn’t need quite as many layers as I brought with. Plus I was there to dance through the chakras which warmed me up and I created some art and a vision board. I still remember always saying to myself and others for years that “I’m not a creative person” but everything about creativity I love now. It’s such an important part of me, I can’t believe I never saw this until now.

Thriving through movement: discovering Aquatic Therapy

Posted by: Sara Benveniste Posted on: 9th May 2025

I went to see Karen Charles at Mobility Therapies (www.mobilitytherapies.co.uk) last Wednesday to have some Aquatic Therapy which I’ve never had before, at a local swimming pool. I was really curious about it as I already know that movement is really beneficial for me. I usually like to do different kinds of exercise like working out at the gym, doing Pilates weekly, but also, I love to do chakra dancing most days and squeeze in some Qigong practice into my life too where possible.

Movement has such a positive effect on my body in terms of reducing pain and anxiety, improving my general fitness and increasing my energy levels, and helps me to stay committed to my health and wellness journey as I continue to find new therapeutic ways of releasing it all day by day. It’s not always enough what I do at home in self-care which is why I do have to resort to finding treatments that help to reduce the pain, especially when I am going through a flare-up and the underlying stubborn pain won’t go away. I normally give it a few days to a week then I seek treatment when the pain levels are too high and I need that release.

Wellbeing challenges, both mental and physical, are only on the increase and more and more people need support to thrive in life. Thriving is a great feeling – I love to feel good wherever I can, navigating with confidence and resilience around all the stresses and challenges that life brings us.

As someone with lived experience of fibromyalgia, TMJ (jaw pain) and osteo arthritis – otherwise known as chronic pain – which I’ve had to manage for the past 25+ years, I understand first-hand the importance of having pain management strategies in place to help keep it all under control and reduce the frequency of flare-ups. I don’t ever claim to be pain-free, but keeping the pain low is a high priority of mine and I have learned over time to listen to my body and know what it is that it needs. I can’t always meet my needs at every second of every day, but I do my best as I have strategies and new self-care routines in place to support me.

Mindfulness, connection with ourselves, and developing a good sense of self-awareness over time has become a really important strategy when managing pain and the anxiety too that comes along with it which naturally gets stuck in the body and increases pain. It felt great to let go of it all in my AquaStretch session and to feel the benefits of the gentle but liberating release it gave me.

Karen Charles worked with the fascia around my whole body during my AquaStretch therapy session. It was an unusual experience being moved about in this way as in the past, I have only ever had treatments such as physiotherapy, osteopathy, craniosacral therapy, lots of acupuncture and deep tissue massage – otherwise known as “passive” treatments – where I’m laying on the bed and receiving treatment. Although I love just receiving treatments, there was something empowering about taking part myself in mobilising my own body in different ways as instructed and according to my pain level. I moved in a way that feels comfortable for me – not excessively painful but bearable – at the same time as being stretched, pulled and prodded in and around all the tightness and sensitivities of my body.

I found it really awkward at first when I was first moved around in the neck and jaw area as my muscles were very tight when I started, but towards the end, I found that part very relaxing and so liberating in terms of pain levels around the jaw and neck area. There were uncomfortable and more painful parts of my neck that didn’t feel as relaxing, but I did ease into the movement, and by the end, although I stood up in the water feeling lightheaded at first, I definitely felt like a weight had been taken off my chest. Also, once dressed and ready, I noticed the pain was easier. I felt lighter, like a large chunk of pain had left my body. I felt taller and slimmer especially around the neck area. I also felt like it was easier to walk tall with a good posture as with tension, I can sometimes tend to slouch a bit as I do have to constantly remind myself to correct my posture. It felt so good to be without the constant heaviness and fatigue that pain brings me everyday. It’s really good to feel good especially when it makes space for new, positive surges of energy to come through. I definitely felt like I’d had a really good stretch throughout.

If you would like to get in contact with Karen Charles to see for yourself the positive impact it can have on your body and pain levels, please do get in touch with her to book your treatment. As well as at Barnet Copthall Leisure Centre, she also runs her sessions from Aspire Leisure Centre in Stanmore.

We have to power to heal ourselves

Posted by: Sara Benveniste Posted on: 6th April 2025

We bury so much in our subconscious that drives our day-to-day behaviours and way of being. We all have the capacity to heal, though it may not be possible to see it right now.

It all starts within, and through regular self-care habits that nourish your wellbeing in some way. It really is a mindset thing to start with, and you have to want to improve your wellbeing. It does takes time and a work-in-progress, but as we build more and more self-care habits into our day, into our everyday reality that make us feel good inside, that relaxes us, that uplift us, and starts to feel the way that you envision your ideal life – around all the stresses and struggles, then there is such a feeling of achievement within.

You can do activities that generate the feeling that you want to feel inside, whether it is peace, joy, or something else. Jot down all the things you want to feel more of in your life, and maybe there is something that really connects to you deep down, that isn’t about anyone else changing their behaviour to make you feel a certain way. It’s really amazing to be able to find your own independent, empowering ways of connecting to yourself that make you feel really good. This is the only way to heal ourselves. No-one else is responsible for our wellbeing, only we are responsible. If we expect others to give to us what we want, it sets us up for failure, especially if this doesn’t always meet our expectations. Self-love makes us appreciate all those around us even more when we are better connected with ourselves, it helps us navigate all the ups and downs of life.

There is no such thing as a perfect life – and we can easily get off-balance and come off-track – but it is possible to get into a better flow with it all, and ride the waves of life with more ease and joy. We don’t have to live our lives in this fear-based reality – we have the choice every second of every day to choose to do good, to make the right decisions for our highest good and for the highest good of those around us.

No-one ever talks about this, but our souls often get neglected – and due to this neglect, it can make us feel so disconnected from ourselves, from our happiest self which is why it’s so important to look after ourselves from within too. No wonder so many people are struggling with their mental wellbeing nowadays. It’s not just about looking after everyone else and leaving your soul and spirit behind until last if at all.

Prioritise you, prioritise your spirit, prioritise your soul! It’s an important part of you to be nourished and loved too. We can only give out so much and we can’t pour from an empty cup, which is why it’s so important to keep filling it up with nourishment, and all that lights it up, which sets it on fire even. Yes, it is safe to light us up that much!

We have the power to heal ourselves through therapeutic healing movement practices like chakra dance run by Australian goddess Natalie Southgate as well as other types of healing too. I’m a big fan also of Rachel’s Reiki’s meditations on YouTube and healing practices where I’m lying down on the other hand and don’t move! I really feel the healing even though I’m listening to it online. I do have a much better experience when I wear my hearing aids as I can hear much more clarity in her speech as she has a softly spoken, breathy type of voice plus she has an American accent which makes it harder for me to hear even with just headphones that I have to otherwise turn quite loud to get more clarity…

Healing is all about stripping the layers of negativity within us – we all have it to a degree. None of us are immune from this – whether it be any kind of trauma, or any limiting self-beliefs that you have buried since childhood and beyond.

You have to find what works for you, everyone is different of course. Plus also, it’s not only just one solution – sometimes it’s a combination of different solutions and tools that you use on a regular basis as and when you need them or else even better, if you don’t have one already, create a regular self-care routine, even if it’s a small one to start with.

What is your idea of pure bliss

Posted by: Sara Benveniste Posted on: 28th March 2025

A couple of weekends ago, I went to a “Simply Self Love Day Retreat” which was held at Loudwater Farm in Rickmansworth, run by Hannah Kern who heads up a beautiful initiative called the Happiness Project.

As soon as I saw the flyer for this retreat, I knew I had to go, and in the excitement of what the day entailed, I managed to make it happen somehow and my husband looked after the kids for the day. This day retreat was and is everything I dream of doing and have been working towards over the past 3 years especially, and it was being offered to me on a platter – the whole day was jam-packed with a large dollup of TLC and absolute bliss.

The day started with drinking cacao which is like a very rich, fragrant, and somewhat bitter hot chocolate, but as I love dark chocolate and am used to the taste of it, the cacao wasn’t such a shock to my system. We drank it very slowly, and before even drinking it, we inhaled the gorgeous aromas of the chocolate mixed in with orange aswell – a great combination – and then gently and mindfully sipped it, appreciating each and every sip as we slowed down our pace in escaping our busy, and often chaotic, noisy everyday lives.  It was a great way to set the scene and get us all feeling relaxed and more energised at the start of the day.

The singing and musical improvisation which we started with, using drums alongside the guitar, was great fun. Also, I stepped out of my comfort zone and instead of singing during a couple of chants, I thought I would play my native American flute which I haven’t picked up for a few months. It sits comfortably on my windowsill at home along with my other bits of pieces (books, flowers, ornaments, card decks, candles) but I haven’t made use of it as much as I would like recently.

This retreat gave me the opportunity to ignite some light back into this special flute I bought during the pandemic whilst being inspired by American music therapist Christine Stevens. I also brought with my silver flute gifted to me by my Mum (whilst I was testing it out in the shop!) as I wasn’t sure if I would want to use it and which flute I would decide to use. I was playing it by ear, and was very grateful for the opportunity to play one of my flutes. There were over 20 in the group so it was a bit brave of me to just come out and play, but listening to my intuition, I went and just did it out of my comfort zone – and the joy and peace I felt in the moment overtook any fear or nervousness, and even better, the others enjoyed it too.

The food on display was amazing and so delicious, made with such love and care. Everything was gluten-free and vegan, so I was safe there and could eat everything which is unusual these days. It’s not always easy to get gluten-free food and I do have to plan my day carefully and always check the menu before I go anywhere. Saying that, there is much better choice of gluten-free food than there used to be, so all is good. Most of the time I don’t feel like I’m missing out and have gotten used to this diet that keeps my gut feeling happier and healthier. The frozen fruit dessert was absolutely sublime, so yummy, I will find out this recipe as I would love to make it for myself and my family. It’s something the kids might even eat – it’s always a miracle when I find meals all five of us in my family will eat, or even just the four of us. There was also Israeli salad on the menu too which you can’t go too wrong with.

We picked cards, went for a walk outside and chilled and talked with people from all walks of life, of all faiths and beliefs, with a wide range of ages too. We drank lots of interesting, healthy, detoxifying flavoured waters with three different blends containing ginger, orange, lemon, cucumber and grapefruit, and more. The setting was perfect, it was local and a lovely place to relax as there were multiple rooms and the kitchen and lounge. It was like a home away from home. The location of this farmhouse meant that we were surrounded by nature, including a lake, lots of trees and lots of birds singing away freely and happily. We were lucky with the weather as although it was cold, the sun was out for the whole day in our favour.

It was so lovely to do a Qigong class in person with Hannah Kern as until now, I’ve only really done Qigong in person at the Chakra dance retreat by Lizzie Clifford I attended almost two years ago, which is the place I was also introduced to sound baths, and in particular, a gong bath, which was one amazing sound bath! That was when I knew I had to do more of them, and this is what I’ve been doing as part of my self-care.

Self-care generally has to be planned and squeezed in – it’s a nice “to do” to add to the list instead of all the other heavy-going endless set of “to-do’s”. They don’t always have to drag you down and stress you out or overwhelm you – “to-do’s” can be fun, relaxing and energising too!

I practice Qigong online at the moment with Sheli Berger from A Daily Cup of Qi whenever I have a little bit of time here and there, and the flexibility of it being online makes it easier to fit it into my busy schedule – normally it’s the 20 minute routines that I’m drawn to and there is a short 12 minute bedtime routine too which helps me wind down after a busy day and helps to clear any anxiety or overwhelm or negative energies I might have picked up during the day too.

Back to the retreat I went to on the weekend, they then had a soundbath in the afternoon which included something different I hadn’t experienced properly before with my eyes closed shut, which was called a soundscape. I would love to know how to do this. Though I was in a deep state of relaxation and so immersed in the healing sounds of the instruments being played, crystal bowls, Himalayan bowls, chimes, drums etc, I was so tempted to open my eyes at that point to see what they were doing as there were at least 3 instruments being played that I heard at once and all the sounds sounded so beautiful blended together into one. However, I did manage to resist temptation and stay asleep as it felt so good and relaxing too; I could have stayed in that dreamy state for longer but at some point, I did have to wake up.

I was asked at the end how my experience of this day retreat compared with my expectations, and I said what I knew to be true, which was that I knew this would be an amazing event before I even got there, and especially after getting to know Hannah, her work and all that she represents.

I won’t forget this retreat in a hurry  ❤️❤️❤️❤️

Photo credits to Rick Harrop

What’s your mission?

Posted by: Sara Benveniste Posted on: 2nd March 2025

I am on a mission. I’ve been on it for a while now and the truth is I don’t know when my perfect job opportunity is coming but it feels like I’m getting closer somehow if only in terms of guidance and clarity. I hope that my prayers will be answered soon as I continue with my spiritual journey to self-discovery.

I’ve been looking on and off for a permanent part-time role since the beginning of 2023. In between, I managed to add a new wealth of experience to my portfolio that I gained from a temporary PA role (November 2023 – June 2024) at a local special needs boys’ school, and also, via some ongoing part-time freelance work as Magazine Editor of a local community magazine which is still ongoing. However, since last September, I’ve been looking again more intensely once more for a permanent part-time role which is ultimately what I want. I can’t tell you how happy it’ll make me when I don’t have to think about job hunting anymore, when I am in my ideal role.

Having said that, job hunting has for sure taken me on a rollercoaster ride of a journey, and I have to say, though rejections are difficult, especially when I’ve felt so deeply aligned to the role and organisation I have spent a lot of time preparing for, really feeling into the role as if it were mine, I have had to learn the art (and freedom) of letting go.

Interview preparation is an intense process and it always takes time to prepare, not just what you might want to say and how to persuade the interviewer that you are the right person for the job, but also, self-care preparations are necessary on the day to keep you grounded, uplifted, empowered and calm, ready for the barrage of questions that you might be asked not knowing how it’ll be until you walk into the interview room!

My latest rejection felt a little bit different. The calibre of candidates were high (I was one of them), but ultimately it boiled down to not having enough experience of being in the role that I was applying for as someone else had more experience than me. The job I applied for was another PA role, not to the Headmistress but to the SENCo of a primary school in Central London – an amazing school actually with an outstanding Ofsted, and which caters for the majority of children attending the school who have special educational needs and disabilities. They have an amazing SEND provision which I was very impressed and inspired by.

As usual, what I do when I get a rejection, is to reflect and take away any lessons learned from my interview experience and the experience preparing for the role itself, then I plan to do a soothing, energising, uplifting chakra dance meditation or else some Qigong – on the same day – which is another great release that helps me to let go and release any feelings of negativity attached, which helps me to make space for any new, exciting opportunities that might be on their way to me instead on focusing on the negative.

This time round, the rejection has really revealed to me my soul’s mission, which is what I’m really passionate about, and that is to change the face of mental health and well-being of children and adults through creativity, music and movement, and in particular, parents, and people with chronic pain and fatigue, special educational needs and disabilities, and hearing loss.

I’m a Certified Copywriter, Magazine Editor, Administrator and PA, and all-round Health, Wellbeing & Music Advocate, so please do let me know if you see any suitable opportunities that would help to serve my purpose and soul’s mission. As I said in one of my earlier blogs, my heart is leading the way this time round in my job search, so I would appreciate any guidance that could lead me to the perfect opportunity.

I also quote what I said in an earlier blog titled “Never stop dreaming“:

“I know there is a job that is meant for me, and that someone who will choose to employ me is someone who accepts me as I am with the skills and talents I have right now, someone who looks beyond my imperfections and sees the potential in me as someone they can mould to become the greatest version of myself in line with their business needs and desires, someone who can see beyond my struggles and weaknesses, someone who they can see growing and thriving in their organisation using what I have right now.”

Music has been an amazing tool to help support my spiritual growth and personal development, enhancing my creative writing skills in the process, and helping me to grow and thrive. Part of this has involved me voluntarily setting up a new local community group for women who love to sing karaoke-style and share their love of music and the sheer joy they experience whilst singing their hearts out, but also, playing my flute after an 18 year gap, playing the native American flute, and singing in two local choirs. I love to spread the joy of music to others helping people and communities to unite/thrive/grow.

Writing has also been a very important part of my healing journey too. I also love to use copywriting as a tool to enlighten and empower people to look after their own well-being, make positive, healthy change and heighten self-awareness. I love writing about things on my blog site and on social media that inspire change and bring forth transformation and healing in others. I love to put a positive spin on the stories I write and enjoy sharing my blogs – where I share my insights and journey through my life experiences – with a variety of different community groups I am a part of and my friends of course.

My life motto is this, “No matter how you feel, get up, dress up, show up and never give up”

Have a beautiful weekend and I look forward to hearing from you soon.

What’s your key word for 2025? 

Posted by: Sara Benveniste Posted on: 9th January 2025

My keyword for 2025 is LIGHT.

Light to me is the gateway to a productive, happy and fulfilled life all round, both professionally or and in my personal life too.

It’s a reminder for me to:

– Shine bright and stay authentically me.

– Continue to embody taking consistent imperfect action in my job search in alignment with the person I am and love being.

– Embrace my imperfections and be kind to myself.

Note to self: Imagine you are talking to your best friend or colleague and the words you would say to them – think before you speak in a judgemental way out loud to yourself. Notice it and catch it when you can! If you don’t catch it, don’t worry, forgive yourself and make a note to catch it next time 😲

– Stay grounded in my core purpose and values and all that matters to me most in life. Love, peace and joy is very important to me all round plus I also value authenticity, hard work, loyalty, integrity, diversity, a good sense of connection and great collaboration with whoever it is, family, friends and colleagues, celebrating each others’ successes too as well as supporting their growth, ideally maintaining clear, positive, kind and respectful communication. And finally, playfulness and embracing the need for creativity, laughter and inspiration to enhance happiness, self-esteem and productivity which has a ripple effect on all those around you.

– Continue to learn new lessons and gain new insights through each of my life experiences. Mistakes and bumps on the road are the only way to grow!

– Continue to spread my light across all the different communities I am connected with – friends, colleagues, business connections – and embrace new opportunities for growth and expansion.

– Prioritise self-care, practice mindfulness and gratitude always.

– Continue to incorporate musical and mindful practices and child-like play into my daily routine, which serves a great purpose to me in increasing productivity, creativity and clarity along my journey in finding my dream role with an employer “who accepts me as I am with the skills and talents I have right now, someone who looks beyond my imperfections and sees the potential in me as someone they can mould to become the greatest version of myself in line with their business needs and desires, someone who can see beyond my struggles and weaknesses, someone who they can see growing and thriving in their organisation using what I have right now.“ (quoted from one of my recent blogs).

– Trust my own intuition and guidance. My heart and authentic being is now leading the way in 2025!

Hope I’ve given you some food for thought… Happy and healthy new year all!!! Let’s make 2025 an exciting, successful and positively memorable year!

Sweeten the smallest moments with gratitude

Posted by: Sara Benveniste Posted on: 2nd January 2025

In holding on to all the good things from 2024, and it being the last day of Chanukah, I thought I would reflect on everything during the past year to solidify the positives (and light) I can pull from each of my experiences and the lessons I’ve learned.

I’m so grateful for my Jewish identity now more than ever this past year whilst absorbing everything that has happened in Israel and the antisemitism that has spiked big time all around the world. We are an absolute miracle – this is a core part of who I am and I wouldn’t have it any other way. I am so proud of the Jewish people as a collective, and all that we stand for, and the joy that the Jewish spirit brings to me and my family. I’m also really grateful to all our friends – whatever their religion or beliefs – all those who have stood with us in our time of greatest need and believed in the truth of who we are and our innate capacity for love and peace.

It was such a miracle this year that Christmas fell on the same day as Chanukah. We started our Chanukah celebrations when the sun went down and the stars came out whilst during the daytime, Christmas was being celebrated by many people. This has only happened 3 times in the last 100 years – and I believe it is a true sign of the times and especially true of the close friendship that we have built with our fellow Christians, especially this past year since October 7th, who have played an important role to help us fight the toxic antisemitism that has plagued the world after the worst attack on Jewish people since the Holocaust. I’ve loved every minute of Chanukah this year, and the light it has brought to me and all those people who have been inspired by the light we have shared around the world on social media, the shining bright public Menorahs at outdoor community events, indoor community events, in our homes with our families, the joy it has brought to the kids in lighting the candles and exchanging presents… Our lights have shined really bright this year.

I am so grateful for all the music that has inspired and uplifted me this year, whether it’s through the two choirs I’ve attended – Rock Choir and Mill Hill Community choir, the karaoke sessions I organise virtually every month at the Sync Bar, through chakra dance and Natalie Southgate’s enlightening and fun chakra dance meditations or through all the sound baths I’ve attended too which have been a great release, and also, all the amazing musicians I’ve come across on social media or YouTube that you may or may not have seen me share on Facebook in my news stories.

I’m grateful to have taken part in the “You’re the voice” Rock Choir event in November this year at the New Wimbledon theatre – the atmosphere was so incredible. I am looking forward to starting weekly Rock Choir sessions later on this month as we’ve had quite a long break over the winter break – I’m definitely now ready to rock ‘n’ roll again, and looking forward to the new singing experiences I’ll take part in this year!

I’m also grateful for the opportunity to participate in my first orchestra concert last week playing the flute for a local community soup and doughnut lunch to celebrate the 6th day of Chanukah. As well as it being initially nerve-wrecking, I was surrounded by a warm group of people and we had fun with it and I managed to laugh those nerves off, and just enjoy the feeling of getting myself out there doing something a bit different and brave too, doing the best I could, and learning some new lessons for the next time. It’s a totally new “listening” experience playing in an orchestra compared to playing on my own especially when it comes to timing the notes exactly with the other instruments, but also, developing a real mindful awareness of the sounds of the other instruments to listen out for, which is a new technique I am developing. As well as identifying those areas I could improve on for next time, there is also an element of patience that goes along with this as part of the learning process and being kind to myself in the moment.

I’m also grateful for all those job opportunities and freelance work this year that have come my way this past year that have played a big role in strengthening my recent work experience, amplifying my skills in the process, opening new doors for personal growth and development and increasing my own self-confidence and self-worth. I’m looking forward to what this year will bring, the people I will meet and the new opportunities that will arise.

Finally, I’m so grateful for simply being alive, especially when I think about those who are suffering so much right now and don’t have this opportunity. Life isn’t perfect by any means but I have learned to embrace it as it is, nurture my soul’s needs more and really get in touch with what makes me glow inside, and nurture the good and all the positive relationships that surround me. Music has become my sanctuary but also such a catalyst for my growth and expansion and has inspired me to grow through my experiences of life in general especially this past year which has been a real learning curve – learning how to thrive in the darkness, learning how to live and enjoy life in the best possible way despite what other people might think of me, and learning how to best change my perspective on life despite how it might look on the outside.

2024 has been a life-changing year which I will never forget. May the tears of 2024 water the seeds of 2025, today and beyond. It can surely only get better now.

Cheers to a fabulous, magical, successful year and a peaceful one too full of light, love and joy.

Firework by Katy Perry

Keep shining your bright light in 2025. May the light continue to shine each and every day of the year without it needing to be Chanukah. Let’s make 2025 an amazing year!!!!

Never stop dreaming

Posted by: Sara Benveniste Posted on: 26th December 2024

Based on my last two interviews where I was a strong candidate but not strong enough to get the job, in my usual style, and especially coming up to the end of 2024, I wondered what can I do with the positive feedback I received, and how do I move forward into 2025, be the “Number One Candidate” and get my dream job.

Job hunting has become a real mission over the past few months, and also one of personal growth and development. I am grateful for every next step I‘ve taken in finding different creative ways to boost my confidence during interviews and improving my answers to interview questions, which has led me to applying for the roles I’ve had interviews for, not also forgetting all the amazing friends and family who have supported me in the process.

I am still to find the right role, one where we both equally align with each other – which seems to be the biggest challenge – not just me aligning with the goals of the organisation and the people that interviewed me. It’s a two-way process.

I’ve been told at different points in time by various people that when a job is meant for me, it’ll happen in its own time. I’m doing my best to keep the faith and to trust the process – which is another part of me I’ve been working on too. I know deep down that I’m somehow being guided to the right role though I can’t see it clearly now. Each step I’ve taken has pushed me to grow and to embrace my authentic self even more which has led me to this point.

Somewhere out there, I know there is a job that is meant for me, and that someone who will choose to employ me is someone who accepts me as I am with the skills and talents I have right now, someone who looks beyond my imperfections and sees the potential in me as someone they can mould to become the greatest version of myself in line with their business needs and desires, someone who can see beyond my struggles and weaknesses, someone who they can see growing and thriving in their organisation using what I have right now.

I love to grow as a person and learn new things. I’m very adaptable and flexible to change, I have a positive attitude to work and I’m very self-motivated. I work well on my own and also work great with colleagues in a team. I demonstrate a high level of empathy, compassion and diplomacy no matter what level of seniority in the organisation. I’m also a hard worker and get the job done which are all important qualities to have.

For one of my recent interviews for a charity, both for Administrator roles, I had questions sent to me in advance so I had a few days to prepare and reflect on giving the best answers and best real examples I could possibly give, and this was evident in the feedback letter I received which at the start said the following:

“Firstly, your application form scored very highly in our process. It was one of the highest scoring across all applications received due to how well it illustrated your ability and prior experience to meet the job specification. It was also incredibly well structured which made it very easy to pull out key bits of information. In your interview, we were very impressed by your level of experience and you had clearly done a huge amount of preparation. It is clear that you were a high level and incredibly capable candidate.”

What amazing feedback right! I was blown away because not everyone takes the time to give much feedback if any at all (once I was emailed a blank template rejection letter!), so I am grateful to hear these positive and encouraging words, which must mean that I am somehow moving in the right direction. I asked myself, how do I take this forward? It felt so good to hear this feedback; I felt proud of myself of everything I had achieved until that point. I really did give it my all. However, I still wasn’t quite there yet where I wanted to be, at that final destination.

There were also other things I had to work on that were mentioned in the feedback email which included improving my answers to questions on the spot in the interview which wasn’t a surprise to me as this is my real struggle – and a constant work-in-progress too. I’m not naturally a sales person, and although I might not tick every single box in an interview, I have lots of amazing transferable skills and extensive administration and copywriting experience which I have gained over the last 25 years. If there is something new I need to learn, so be it. I am always up for a new challenge and will work hard to get up to speed to where I need to be.

Nerves is a big one for me because when they take over, I can simply just go blank despite how many hours (and days) I have spent preparing for this moment to shine in the interview. I was like this during exams at school aswell so I know these feelings well. These moments don’t always reflect my truest self but I do my best as I always do.

Preparing my answers in advance and having notes in the interview is a big help to me in terms of calming down my nerves. All of me was written down on paper, all my reflections, all my strengths, my best examples, my thought processes, my best presentation skills are all written down, and written whilst feeling calm which always brings out my best self. That’s not to say I can’t juggle under pressure – I have had lots of experience with this – but I do find it hard to sell myself under pressure.

Unfortunately, in that particular interview for the charity I spoke about earlier, it wasn’t a sales presentation as I thought it would be. I prepared my best content but unfortunately, I ran out of time to shorten my notes in bullet point format and practice talking with confidence without notes, saying what I truly want to say from my core. Hindsight is always great.

After every interview, I re-evaluate things and think about how I can improve my answers and my technique for the next time. I am also doing my best to include practices on the day of the interview that help calm and release those nerves – normally including meditation and exercise in the morning plus a really good sing-song in the car on the way to the interview – and build that confidence for when I walk in that door!!!!

In my last interview, I did a short session of Qi Gong that morning too, which was also helpful, especially as I did the whole interview without notes and only consulted them when I was asked at the end if I had any questions for them. I stayed calm and composed during the whole interview and this time, it felt like more of a conversation than a sales presentation, but by the end, I had given it my all,  and wanted to consult the notes I had made earlier at home to jog my memory and make sure I asked the right questions.

Although job hunting may seem like an impossible task, I will carry on as I always do. I’ve always been very determined and I have worked really hard to get this far – giving up or stopping is not an option for me. My only option now is to stay strong, keep up the self-care, never give up hope and rise above the obstacles, against the odds, above the competition.

“Our greatest glory is not in never failing but in rising every time we fall” (Ralph Waldo Emerson and Confucius)

Today is a new day. A new beginning.

A chance to start afresh. Another chance to get it right.